Mormon,Mormonism Stress

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, as well as other religions and doctors in general, encourages its members to solve conflicts with love and unselfishness and to forgive selfish acts committed by the others, such that the lives of the people have less anger and are less stressful. For example, the LDS church provides a class on Marriage and Family Relations that teaches positive ways to respond to challenges in marriage. LDS marriages, especially those performed in LDS temples, are three-way covenants between the bride, the groom, and God, and members are encouraged to behave in their marriage as they would if God were personally with them. In addition to changing their lives to be more like that of Jesus Christ, members are encouraged to have positive and honest communication between themselves and with God. All members of the church are encouraged to take the class.

I am presenting a positive image of the church, but in addition to helping us reduce the stress in our lives, membership in the church causes stress. On the local and regional level, the LDS church has a non-paid ministry. The pastor of a LDS congregation is a Bishop, and the Bishop serves with his two counselors to provide leadership and guidance to the congregation. These three men serve without pay on a part-time basis. In addition to his leadership role in the congregation, the Bishop, even though he probably has not had professional training as a counselor, counsels with members of the congregation about their personal problems. I've never been a Bishop, but I have been counselors to Bishops, and the three men (known as the Bishopric) do experience an awfully lot of stress. Because the Bishopric serve on a part-time basis without pay, other men and women are called to perform various duties in their congregations or wards (or on a regional level in their stakes). Some of these people are leaders of various subdivisions of their wards or stakes. Others teach classes, help the youth and adults with their activities, and do cleaning and maintenance of church buildings. All members are expected to give prayers in the meetings in their wards and stakes and to give talks in the worship services of their wards and stakes. Thus, we can see that LDS are busy with their church callings.

Activity within the church is stressful, and this stress is different for each person. Some people enjoy being with others, and these close associations are strengthening to them. Others, though, do not enjoy being in groups of people, and close relationships are difficult, even terrifying, for them. In my case, I enjoy teaching adult classes and speaking in worship meetings. I enjoy camping and hiking with scouts (scout activity is one of the programs of the church). These activities are relatively easy for me, and I do them with a minimum of stress. I enjoy one-on-one social relationships, but I do not like to be with groups of people, and I find that social groups give me a lot of stress. I recognize that church activities are good for me, because they help me become a more well-rounded person, but there is still a lot of stress due to my membership in the church.

I'm retired now, but my 40+ years working as an engineer were stressful for me, even though I really enjoyed my work. That enjoyment, though, brought stress into my marriage and family life due to my wanting to be absorbed in my work. In fact, life in general is stressful. The story of Adam and Eve teaches us that mortal life is one of stress.

And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;

 Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;

In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return. (Genesis 3:17-19)

The scriptures teach that opposites are necessary. We must have both good and evil if we are to exercise our agency to choose between them and thus grow as persons. The prophet Lehi taught this to his son Jacob.

For it must needs be, that there is an opposition in all things. If not so, my first-born in the wilderness, righteousness could not be brought to pass, neither wickedness, neither holiness nor misery, neither good nor bad. (2 Nephi 2:11) 

The stress of mortal life is opposite to the joy that Jesus Christ brings through his atonement.

The scriptures also teach that we should not judge others but should leave judgment to God. Being judgmental can cause one to have greater stress, including stress from anger.